Okay, this is dramatic. Is that too click bait-y?
But I’m basically yelling because, no one talks about bigger-kid sleep. I hesistate to say toddler because, Liv definitly isn’t a toddler. Matter of fact, she slept (dare I say…?) perfectly until about 2.5 years old (from after we sleep trained her at 6 months.)
Then at 2.5 something happened…well, it was probably her little sister coming into the world. And she was getting up in the middle of the night all the time and one of us would get up and sleep in her bed because it’s a double.
I shouldn’t really talk about that in past tense because it’s still happening. It got better when we moved her into a big bed, but then as she’s been sick with colds on and off (thank you pre-school), we’ve fallen back into the habit.
I hope you’re not coming here for an answer…but more to commiserate. It’s tough because both girls share a room, so if Mila wakes up then sometimes it wakes Liv up. But honestly, most of the time she wakes up on her own.
We totally created this habit because it’s so easy to just plop down in her bed and go back to sleep, but I miss sleeping in the same bed as my husband! One of us, most nights of the week, is not in our bed.
I think it’s funny that we sleep trained and thought, “okay great, that’s it!!” besides the occasional sickness or vacation. But NOT TRUE! Turns out 3 year old sleep can be rough too.
My pediatrician told us that we have to get her used to falling asleep when we’re not there again, because we usually read books and then I lay with her until she falls asleep. And I know she’s right. And we will do that, somehow eventually.
I’m 40% sick of not sleeping in the same bed, 30% too tired to deal with it and 30% enjoying the fact my girl needs me. Maybe it’s more like 40, 40, 20 though? Part of me does think it’s sweet, so when it gets REAL old, I’ll deal with it.
If you’re in the same boat, or were, I would love to hear from you.
For the record, sometimes I’ll go in and check on her and tell her I have to use the bathroom or get water and she’ll fall back asleep, but I usually only do that if it’s 4:30 or 5.
Maybe it would work if I set a timer for an amount of time to lay with her and decreased it every few days? Something like that.
I hate when I don’t have a take away for my blog posts, but maybe the take away is...you’re not alone. Or maybe the take away is…if you’re spending most nights in bed with your kid, make sure you’re taking time for just you and your husband. (working on this…)
Any tips for us over here? Or similar stories to share?
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