I’ve been doing the two kids thing for 8.5 months now. A pro…I am not. I think I say this every time I write about having kids, but come on, it’s the truth. Being a parent means you constantly waver between the “I GOT THIS” and the “WTF IS GOING ON” mentalities on the daily. At least for me it does. Having two kids and two businesses is a juggle that we work on every day…but since I get a lot of the “how do you do it all” questions, I thought I would share some insights and reflections.
First, I don’t do it all, no one does. You juggle the balls in the air and surely one is going to drop. Whatever that ball is for you. I have learned that in order for me to function happily, I HAVE to be selfish. My form of selfish means waking up at 5 am and getting in a very quiet workout by myself. It also means that I ask for breaks when I need alone time. I’m a MAJOR introvert and I NEED time to recharge. Often times my morning workout is good enough, but when it’s not I do ask for help…and time alone watching trashy tv in bed. Also I want to make a note on work/life balance. We have it..and mostly because we HAVE to have it. I have 2 small kids and I’m not willing to make our life unbalanced. Sure I could hustle more and work more and just be EVERYWHERE more, but will that make my girls lives richer? No. They want time with Dan and I and that’s WHY we stay balanced.
Mila is in a tough stage and I remember it being very tough with Liv too. She’s starting to stand and she just wants to walk…which means she’s getting SUPER frustrated. She also just realized she doesn’t like when we leave the room. I tell her I’m only 4 steps away, but she’s like, “NO STAY RIGHT HERE”. She also isn’t a huge fan of the napping and sleep thing right now. The benefit of being a second time mom is that I KNOW that this stage passes, as they all (bittersweet-ly) do. Soon she’ll be walking and talking and running away from us instead of toward us and I know that, which is why I take a lot of deep breaths and mostly happily bend down to pick her up.
Olivia on the other hand is easy. Sure she has occasional three-nager moments, but overall she’s just so happy and easy going. She’ll entertain Mila, make her laugh and just will do anything to help out. When I look at Mila and I look at Liv, it’s a good reminder of how time FLIES. In a few short months Liv will start Pre-K and you bet you’ll be finding me bawling my eyes out. She wants to stay for lunch at school already…and this was my girl that didn’t even want to go inside the building!
As a mom, I find myself teetering between the wanting to rush time so it’s easier (in some ways…and then harder in others) and wanting to slow it all down. It’s such a conundrum. You know that quote, the days are long but the years are short. That just about sums up parenting.
Between the cries, reaching arms and frustrations there’s just a lot of happiness. It is HARDER with two kids, but the joy is just exponentialy there too in that unexplainable way.
What’s the point? I don’t know, I’m just having one of those heart on my sleeve days. The past few weeks have been tough and I know they’ll get better soon. We laugh a lot still and I’m beyond grateful for a fully committed husband who is my parenting equal. If you’re in a similar situation, then just a few things. Know you’re not alone! AND be selfish. It’s OKAY. As mom’s we get all this guilt for even thinking of taking care of ourselves…but really, we’re the rock. And if you’re not happy then no one will be truly happy! And I always say this but, ASK FOR HELP. If you need a break or you need time with your husband, then ask someone to step in for an hour. You’ll be SO much happier!As a mom of 2, I'm SELFISH. Are you? Click To Tweet
Other moms, I’d love to hear your thoughts. Do you feel like you are selfish? Is there guilt there?
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