Do you set goals or a focus point? I’ve been working on setting goals and working towards them. I’ve set goals in the past, made awesome vision boards with them and then be like OK GREAT, see you later until next year. Goals are great, but if you don’t make an actionable and strategic plan to reach them, then they’re just words on paper. It’s so interesting for me to look back on the ways we’ve run our business in the past four years. I know I’ve said this a lot in the past few months, but the amount I’ve learned since September is ridiculous.
Dan took the leap into full time entrepreneurship in September. Since then we’ve been working…and struggling..and working on balancing our schedules. You know social media is a highlight reel, but I always tried to be honest and authentic and if I’m being honest, we’ve had our fair share of struggles since September. First of all, I think if you know me and my space here and you KNOW I LOVE my family. I have the MOST dedicated husband and he is such a wonderful father. I don’t EVER micro-manage his parenting. We talk about parenting and we’re a team. We don’t undermine each other and you’ll never, ever hear me saying something different than he would in front of Olivia (or soon to be Mila). We’ll talk about a situation after, but she’ll never hear us NOT be on the same team.
Change is hard. Even thought it was SO, SO wonderful that Dan was around more, we had to figure out our daily work flow and stride. It seriously took us two months to figure out how we work best…and really we’re still working on it. I had A LOT of emotions at first. I felt a lot of guilt that I wasn’t with the girls as much. It probably sounds silly, but I was working 4-5 hours a day…and I was used to being MOM, ALONE, for 12 hours a day. What a shift. On one hand I was SO SO SO happy and on the other hand I was feeling so guilty it wasn’t just me anymore.
We set a goal and a focus to make sure we worked as smoothly as possible. At the beginning we wasted a lot of time just transitioning and we didn’t plan ahead to figure everything out. That was a big mistake. We realized we needed to work better together. We sat down and set a goal to make sure we would work and parent efficiently. Then we made a plan how we were going to reach that goal.
Schedules & Planning
I can’t stress enough HOW important schedules and planning are. Did you know that 0% of spouses are mind readers? At the start I would get frustrated with Danny because I wasn’t getting enough time to work. Instead of talking about it, I would just get frustrated with him. But really, how could he know if we weren’t communicating about it? For awhile we both felt like we weren’t working enough. It was just unbalanced because we hadn’t nailed down a working plan yet. We started doing a weekly schedule on Sunday or Monday where we plan out our week. I tell him all the meetings and calls I had where I needed the kids covered and he tells me his meetings. We go from there and it’s worked out MUCH better.
Like I said, we needed to communicate. It’s better to over-communicate then under. If we didn’t talk about what was going on or how I was feeling (guilty, overworked, stressed, etc) then it led to an argument. Sit down with your spouse or partner weekly at minimum and make a plan for moving forward. It’s the BEST, most productive thing you can do. On the weeks where we didn’t make time for this AND spend time together talking, it was the weeks where we felt “off” and didn’t communicate, the production level went WAY, WAY down.
Childcare + What to do
This is obviously hugely personal. We don’t have childcare for Mila, but Livi does go to school 3 hours, 3 days a week. Dan and I NEED child free working time. So what to do? You have to figure this out for you, but I will tell you, you cannot work well or productively with kids around. Trust me, I tried it for years. It doesn’t work. Hire a babysitter or get up early or work after their bedtime. Figure out when you are most productive. For me, after 8pm I have ZERO brain power. In the past week Dan and I started getting up at 5 am and meeting then. We do some personal development in the morning and game plan then. It has helped us be more productive and on the same page. While I love getting my work out in first thing, we NEED this child free time 2 times a week to make it work.0% of spouses are mind readers: My top tips for working from home Click To Tweet
This is what my schedule looks like today. It’s different everyday, but I do work 4-5 hours a day. Sometimes, like today it will be more broken up, which makes it harder for work flow, but gotta do what you gotta do!
5:40 – 7:15 Wake up. Meet with Dan. Plan for Blissful Eats week. Watch Virtual Business Academy. Talk about delegating and hiring staffers. (Mila woke up at 7.)
7:30 – 8:15 – Get change and work out. (Hammer & Chisel Day 2)
8:15-8:30 – Smoothie time.
8:30-9:15 – Help Livi get ready for school. My mom stops by to say hi.
9:15 – 11 – Work time. Periscope. Blog. Answer emails, work down to-do list.
11 – 2 – Mom time. Take care of Mila, pick Livi up at school, do errands.
2:00 – 3 – Mila will nap, Livi will play and I’ll do a bit of work.
4:00 – 5:00 – Play with girls until Dan gets home.
5:00 – 6:00 – Dinner and family time.
6:00 – 7:00 – finish up work. Put together corporate holiday bundles and be done with work for the night.
7:00 – 8:00 – bed time with girls
8:00 – 10:00 – Tv and chat with dan + bed.
That’s Monday. Tuesday will be completely different.
I would love to share what works for you. We just feel like we’re making it work in the past few weeks. It took a lot of trial and error and COMMUNICATION to figure out how we can both work our best. Being an entrepreneur is a ROLLERCOASTER. You’ll have weeks where you’re riding the high and then feeling the lows. It comes with the start up territory. The best thing you can do is communicate and look to your spouse for support. Feel free to reach out to me too!
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