I’ve been a mom of two for a whole almost 5 months now, so surely I’m an expert. Kidding, of course, but I’ve gotten a fair share of questions about the transition and logistics of having two kids.
I think the most important thing going into having two kids is to have realistic expectations. I fully expected to not sleep. I expected Liv to freak out because she wasn’t the center of our world anymore. I expected Mila to cry a lot. We weren’t really worried about it because we had been through this before. Overall, I think the second time around you’re just a lot calmer.
If we had expected everything to be rainbows and unicorns I think it would have been a lot harder. When people ask me if it was harder or easier than I thought, I tell them that it was exactly the amount of hard I thought it would be. Were there times where Mila, Livi and I were all crying in the car because Mila hated the car…yes, but did we get through it…yes.
In all honesty, the hardest part so far out of everything was being at the hospital for that one night, away from Olivia. I know a lot of moms say to enjoy the hospital and use it as a time to rest, but we couldn’t wait to get home. It was hard for Livi to come see us and then have to leave. We only ended up staying one night (two nights total because my labor was over night.) The doctors all cleared us to go home the next day. Mila was born just before 4 am, on Saturday morning and we went home by 12 on Sunday.
I’m sure everyone does this but here’s what we did to prepare Liv for her sibling’s arrival:
- Read books about siblings (Maple, Maple & Willow Together, Maple & Willow Apart are all great ones) *affiliate links
- Talked about the baby and how she was going to have to teach her things
- Ask her if she would share her room when baby got bigger
- Buy a gift from baby to Olivia
- Had Olivia bring a lovie and toy to hospital for Mila
Nothing monumental, but it helped.
Olivia was right on the cusp of needing to be out of her crib, but we decided not to make any changes. About a month after Mila arrived, Liv was really getting up multiple times a night so we would come in and sleep in the bed with her (in her room) so we transitioned. It was pretty seemless BUT she used to go right to sleep in her crib, we still have to lay with her until she falls asleep.
Mila has been a great sleeper since she came home from the hospital. We were really lucky in that aspect.
During the day, Mila’s awake time is around an hour and fifteen minutes…and that has increased from about 45 minutes when she was first born. I try super hard to make sure Mila is home for the majority of her naps. Right now she naps 3 times a day. When she napped more, I would try for only 1-2 naps a day was in the car seat so she would get quality sleep. I’m a stickler for their routines, but a rested baby is a (mostly) happy baby!
For the first 3 months it was a lot of juggling because Liv was in school 3 mornings a week. It isn’t easy getting two kids dressed, out of the house, two kids in car seat, lugging the car seat, driving 3 minutes, getting Liv into school and back 2x a day. But guess what, just about everyone does it and we did too. We made it. Now we’re super lucky that at least one time a day Danny or I will stay home with Mila while the other drops her off.How We Eased the Transition From 1 to 2 Kids Click To Tweet
What helped the transition:
Olivia is 2.5 years older than Mila, so she is a great help to me. She will get diapers/wipes/clothes from the playroom or go off and play by herself. I think it was good for Liv to be able to help me with Mila. She also will “watch” her while I run to the bathroom or go into the kitchen. She’s a great entertainer. I ALSO think it helps that Mila sleeps so much. She gets a lot of one on one time with Danny or myself, so she never has been jealous. (Trust me, she’s not an angel, but she’s handled having a sibling extremely well.) We also are very lucky to have a lot of adults around, so Liv gets a lot of attention from them as well.
I think I’m painting too rosy of a picture here, but the truth is life is good. Liv is sassy and has a threenager ‘tude sometimes and Mila will take too short of a nap or have a blow out when I just changed her…or the best when they poop at the same time, but that’s parenthood. There’s hard moments, but there is just so much good. Also I’ll add, having Liv in preschool 3 mornings a week helps keep her entertained and she doesn’t get bored!
I posted these parenting truths when Livi was little, but I thought they were appropriate to share again.8 Parenting Truths and transitioning to 2 kids Click To Tweet
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