Room sharing. We’re doing it….and dare I say, it’s going…okay, or even well. It feels almost a little premature to write this post, but I’ve had a bunch of people ask me about how we did it and how it’s going, so I’ll write this post with the following disclaimer. We’ve only been doing this for a little over 2 weeks, so I’m no expert. This is only our experience. As we all knows, babies are crazy and change their sleep habits all the time, so who knows where we’ll be in a few weeks or months from now, but this is how it’s going now!
So, rewind a little bit to when Mila was born. Mila has been a good sleeper since she was born, only waking once a night and in the rare occasions twice. Liv decided to take some cues from Mila and get up once or twice a night as well. Totally, totally, normal sleep regression due to new baby sister, so we didn’t really sweat it. We did a lot of sleep juggling and Dan and I alternated between sleeping in Liv’s bed with her.
Liv was still in the crib at the time, but she would wake up in the middle of the night and want to sleep in the bed that was in her room with one of us. We just did it mostly because we were tired..and Liv just had this massive change in her life. Mila was in the rock n’play in our room at this point. The whole time we were talking up the big girl bed and how cool it was. Finally when Mila was 2 months, we decided it was time to get Liv in a big girl bed because Mila would need the crib soon. Dan and I were hoping that it would help her sleep better because she would be more comfortable. (Another note: We always had a full size bed in Liv’s room. We’ve used it occasionally when she needed to sleep with one of us.)
We did our same bedtime routine in the bed with books. The routine got longer because instead of us just dropping her in the crib, one of us laid with her in the bed basically until she was sleeping. The night time wake ups (for the most part) stopped after a few weeks when she was comfortable in the bed. We were pretty lax about it. She’ll get up occasionally in the middle of the night, but it’s pretty rare and mostly it’s because she needs a new pull up.
The harder part is that she can get in and out of bed now and will usually call us to come up once or twice. It’s getting better though. (Note: She’s still napping in her crib. When I’m alone during the day, I don’t have time to lay with her until she falls asleep because I have Mila too. I know that napping will stop soon, so I’m just going to let her nap in crib until she gives up the nap.)
(Picture note: Whenever you see Mila with only one snap closed on her onesie, that is because Dan has dressed her and thinks it’s a waste of time to do more. I strongly disagree.)
Now onto room sharing:
Since Mila was born we have been preparing Liv to room share. We started out by asking if she would like to share a room with her sister and if Mila could sleep in her crib when she was big enough. Even though we had no intention on them not sharing, I really think it was helpful to approach it that way. Liv was SUPER excited to share a room and asked almost every bed time when Mila could sleep in the same room. We built it up A LOT. At about 3 months we decided it was time and Liv could barely contain her excitement.
The four of us go upstairs sometime between 7:15 and 8. We read books, (Mila has a bottle) and usually at that time Mila has fallen asleep. Mila typically goes in the crib first while we finish reading books with Liv. Mila will stay asleep through Liv calling down to us, getting out of bed, opening the door, etc. The reverse has happened too, where Mila goes to sleep after Liv and Liv will stay asleep through Mila getting put down.
Also – Mila will wake up once a night mostly. It has woken Liv at times, but she always goes back to sleep…and she doesn’t always wake up. If Mila wakes up at 5 or after then we usually won’t put her back in crib because then it may wake Liv because she’ll be in a lighter sleep, so we’ll put her in the swing.
It has worked out really well so far. At the start of room sharing sometimes Mila would wake up Olivia, but it hasn’t happened recently. (It’s also helpful to have mom hearing and hear Mila when she first makes a peep.) For example, last night, they both got up at different times and the other child stayed asleep and was completely unaffected. We have caught Liv on the monitor after we’ve left the room getting out of bed to check on Mila. It is so cute and melts my heart.
So that’s our experience so far. If there’s any change I’ll be sure to post about it. I would love to hear about your experience room sharing. If you have any questions too, leave a comment or email me!
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